Have you ever really stopped and thought about how important the kitchen table is in your house? It’s at the center of where everything important happens. Memories are made, decisions are reached, and bonds are forged. In my case it became one of the foundation building blocks that would take me through my rough times. I remember my Grandma and Grandpa Fischer’s kitchen table so fondly even to this day!
That kitchen table was where I learned kindness, compassion, and support. I grew up in a family where getting together and seeing everyone was a refreshing intimate time to catch up, laugh and rebuild each other! When entering the house, I remember even as a little tike, a feeling of instant comfort and coziness inviting me in. I was never ignored, but included. I was cheered on, helped and most of all...LOVED!! I was part of the weave that was my family. I always felt like if I wasn’t there...I knew they would feel like something so important was missing. I was never put to the sidelines or less valuable because I was different physically. Everyone, including my parents, aunts, uncles, and grandparents were a team, and we helped each other out. When we were making food for a family dinner, I was always in my high chair close by or included in the action somehow. Or, sometimes we would simply look at old photos or look outside at the beautiful lake down the lane. Whatever we did, I was never far away!!
Children learn by example. The example set by the people in my family was never unnoticed or unappreciated in the least! As I have entered adulthood, and have learned to grow into my own skin, I’m incredibly grateful for the the time, patience and love I was shown by my family members!
All of us get caught up in the “on-the-go”, but it’s important to slow down and take time to be with family. Nobody loves you like your family does. Nobody will cheer louder or harder for you. And your family will use all their power to lift you back up on to your feet when you fall. Realizing the strength and need for the bond of family happens around the kitchen table. Never underestimate the need for family time for all in the family. The routines and memories you establish now, will make an impression and be a source of comfort during those hard times. Trust me, you will be thanked. The advice and sometimes tough love family members have given me sticks with me. When I’m not confident in myself one day, I hear my mom’s voice say, “Honey, you are doing things you never thought you would be doing, be proud of that”! Or I hear Grandpa’s voice saying, “Whatever you choose to do, you can do it and I will support you!”
The support and belief in me from those whom I care about is easy to see now, and is the very thing that started the spark of belief in myself to accomplish things I wanted to do. Home is where your heart is. Family is where your STRENGTH is...and it all starts around the kitchen table.